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Can't Help Feeling Guilty, Ashamed and Selfish?

Ashamed, guilty, hurting your partner and don't know what to do?

Have you done something so terrible you are ashamed to tell anyone else, or fear that they may find out?

Have you done something you are ashamed of and can't get it out of your head?
Feeling Like a Fish Out of Water Everyone has regrets, EVERYONE! Sometimes they are referred to as 'skeletons in the cupboard'. Over time we all do things we're not proud of, and we will do anything to stop someone else finding out, especially when that other person may respond in a negative way or reject us, or want to leave the relationship, if they happen to be our partners.

You know deep down that if you don't say something, your relationship, and the rest of your life, will be a lie. You'll be forever worried that someone will tell your partner, which will keep you permanently on guard and anxious that they will find out.

Wouldn't it be better to tell them now and get it over with?

Taking this step can make you feel a bit like a fish out of water. But the truth is, with this secret between you, it's like you're swimming in muddy water anyway. Something will always feel wrong.

Some poor souls are tortured internally by their own thoughts and actions for years, but are powerless to do anything about it. They are afraid to stay the same, and they are afraid to come clean because their relationship may suffer because of it. But the truth is, the relationship is already suffering!

You don't have to live this way, and the brave ones do something about it.

What sort of things have you heard people confess too?
What this question is really asking is; is my problem covered here? Happy Mature Couple
  • A prison term
  • Children from a previous marriage
  • A secret gay relationship
  • An affair
  • A visit to a prostitute - before or during the relationship
  • A long-term health issue or life shortening condition
  • A criminal lifestyle. Pre-relationship or existing
  • A secret drug habit
  • Abuse in childhood or as a teenager
  • Abuse in adulthood
The secrets that many of us want to keep are life changing indeed. And, it is true that sometimes the partner is shocked and didn't have a clue. But 95% of the time the other partner already had an instinctive 'feel' there was something wrong. Either they already knew and didn't know how to bring it up, or already knew and didn't want to upset the apple cart, or knew and really didn't give a monkey's, but didn't say anything because they didn't want to upset you. You see, we all have reasons to keep quiet.

What usually bothers your partner the most is that you will go to so much trouble to hide whatever it is you are trying to hide. And, do you know what? It just makes them suspicious that you're hiding something else, perhaps even more important.

For heaven's sake, get it out in the open!!

If you need help to do that, then by all means come along and let's go over the pro's and con's, and then decide.

EFT is a unique system of tapping that helps with fearful scenarios and undue uncertainty
Happy Young Couple We use no drugs for this, no medicines, no surgery, no creams, no cover ups and no tricks. The process is painless and emotionally painfree. You will become able to change the course of your own destiny no matter what caused the traumatic responses in the first place.

Learn the secrets of changing the way you think with EFT. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique. Make your appointment today! FEEL the difference!

I cannot help you change the past! But as long as that isn't possible, would you settle for no emotional charge against those memories, so that you stop reacting in the way you do now? So that finally you feel able to talk about anything you want, openly and honestly?
That's what EFT can do for you!

What methods will you use to help me?
We will use a variety of techniques depending on your specific circumstances, but the names of them will give you an idea of how they work.
'The Tell The Story Technique', is probably the one most often used because we will be looking to neutralise the emotional effect of your thinking about the problem, or the constant reminders that you come across, like TV programs, meeting the people involved, or dates in your calendar.
'The Tearless Trauma Technique' is similar, but it specifically looks at your emotional responses as they affect you now, and are perhaps holding you back from making changes or other things better for you now. The tearless trauma is not about pounding your way through it, but taking the gentle, almost casual approach, that reduces the likelihood of tears. But, don't be misled, this is a truely powerful technique that cuts through to the core and deals with it.
'The Movie Technique' is brilliant! It invites you to make a short movie of the incident and then to run the movie as if you were an observer looking in from the outside. This helps you to detach from the pain of the incident, but it is also a way to get by any details that you either can't, or don't want to share. This means you can be completely open with yourself, but without you having to narate them, or have private details you'd rather keep to yourself, coming out in the therapy room.
There are others, but I think this gives you an idea of the kind of thing we will be doing during your session. All these techniques come with tapping, which is the hallmark of EFT.

Don't allow undisclosed secrets to take away the pleasure and beauty of a powerful relationship. Phil is a Fully Certified Local EFT Practitioner
It's time to take action with a proven system of treatment. Whilst treating this condition I've developed a very effective set of protocols, that seem to work very quickly. One or more of these techniques may be included; EFT (Emotional Freedom Techinque), CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) anchoring techniques. I invite anyone who is in turmoil about what, or what not, to disclose to a partner, to visit The Haven Healing Centre in Blagdon. Click the link for appointments and a treatment price list. I look forward to welcoming you soon where we can talk about a treatment plan structured around your needs. Phil.

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To book yourself an EFT session for uncontrollable feelings of guilt or shame at a convenient time, call: 01934 740275

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