The Haven
Healing Centre

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Draycott Rd, Cheddar

The Haven Healing Centre
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Ultimate Relationship Counselling

Step up and create the relationship you've always wanted - NOW!

Answer these questions and ponder these points by relating them to your relationship:
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  • Do you ever question your relationship?
  • Do you feel you are compatible with your partner?
  • Is your life so burdened that you have drifted apart from your partner?
  • What do you have to do to gain your partners attention?
  • Do you feel fulfilled by your partner?
  • What is stopping you from having the relationship you want?
  • What/Who is shaping and controlling your relationship?
  • Why do we do the things we do and how we do them?
  • How do the things other people do affect us?
  • If its really that easy to change the way we think and feel, why don't we?
  • If its really so easy to change the way we act and do, why don't we do that either?
  • Most believe their emotions are outside of their control. Is this you?
  • Is the love you share with your partner unconditional?
  • Getting your needs met outside of the relationship makes each partner feel insignificant to the other. Is this you? Create the Ultimate Relationship
  • What weapons do you use against each other? Language, emotions, actions?
  • How much certainty are you giving your partner to give them a sense of security?
  • How much variety are you giving your partner to make their life interesting?
  • How significant are you making your partner feel, or are you only worried about your own significance?
  • How loved do you make your partner feel? I mean THEIR way of receiving love, not YOUR way of expressing it?
  • How much growth do you stimulate in your partner?
  • How much do you contribute to their needs and wellbeing?
Learn how to satisfy each others needs. Learn why its so important to lay down your weapons and engage at a higher level. Make that connection NOW! Find out how to breathe new life into your relationship and feel the constrictions in your body lift and release. Learn to be yourself.

What will this program do for me?
If you regularly experience anger, guilt, sadness, shame, loss or fear, instead of joy, happiness, gratitude, excitement or compassion, then this program will help you understand your emotional patterns and the needs they meet within you, and to make bold new decisions that will change your life forever.

The pursuit of love is one of our most powerful urges. We will do almost anything to get it. When we have it, and it is taken away from us, the pain can be almost unbearable. The pain of divorce is one such cause of us having to go through this trauma. There are many ways this can happen. For example, when a partner falls in love with somebody else. But that is by no means the only way this can happen. Sometimes the pain of lost love can happen in a relationship that is in many ways, still functional. The passion is gone, but somehow the relationship remains on a different level.

Rate these human needs on a 1-10 level.
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  • How certain is your partner that you love them?
  • How much variety and surprise do they get from you?
  • How significant do they feel that they are number one in your life?
  • How much love and connection do you give them on a daily basis?
  • How much growth do they feel in your relationship?
  • How much do you help them contribute to the relationship?
  • How does your partner respond to your words, touch, gifts, gestures?
  • How often do you make your partner feel special?
  • How often do you ask your partner if you are meeting their needs and what changes have you made to accommodate them?
Relationships that function at a 1, 2 or 3 or 4 level, are dysfunctional and you are no more than room mates, and unlikely to succeed long term. At levels of 5,6 and 7, your friends, maybe even good friends at 7's, but is that what you really want? You can have dozens of friends, anytime you want, so is being just friends with your partner going to make your relationship fulfilling? I doubt it. Levels of 8, 9 and 10 will give you a relationship to be proud of. You're at a superior level, growing all the time, a relationship that will last forever. If you continue to ask the questions and get better answers your relationship will grow and grow.

Help for couples in a troubled relationship

How is your counselling different than other counsellors?
I use a form of counselling I call 'intervention' counselling. That is, if I think something will help you, I will tell you what I think, not leave you to dream it up for yourself, by accident, or on purpose.
Usually, couples (or singles), find me after searching desperately on the internet for someone to help their relationship. They often come here as a last resort, because they've tried everything else available. So often a couple will present themselves who have been to Relate, or some other relationship counsellor, usually for months of appointments, who are still fighting, resentful, feeling unloved, non-cooperative, alone and downright miserable, but afraid to change or do anything about it. When I ask how they got on, the reply is, 'a bloody waste of time, they never said anything, just listened and made notes'. When I ask if the counsellors they met offered any advice, they just shrug their shoulders and say things like, 'nothing I heard'.

Ultimate Relationships This told me not to offer the same thing! I had to come up with something different; something that made sense to them in a proactive way, not just a listening event, but one which was lively with the banter going back and forth. Questions and answers that delved deep into their behaviour and beliefs. One way conversations are useless in these circumstances and are probably why the relationship got into this mess in the first place.

So the reason I'm different is because I won't let you get away with anything. Creating healing in your relationship is a MUST, not a should. Most people say, oh I should do this, or I should do that, or if I give 50%, he has to give 50% (thinking that makes 100%), but that is so wrong. Basically, they SHOULD all over each other and wonder why the relationship stinks!

Some people ask why, if things are so bad, is there any point in making things better. The answer is because almost all relationships started out good. You had a good reason to hook up, you found each others company a turn on, and you fell in love. What went wrong is gradually, over time, you failed to fulfill each others human needs. Things tapered off, through complacency, boredom or just plain old time. Attitudes become entrenched, pain is felt, arguments follow, and the storm approaches.
I aim to make 'Ultimate Relationship Destruction' into 'Ultimate Relationship Healing'.

My message to you is simple. Don't just sit around fuming that your partner doesn't understand you. Take the problem and give it some airtime in a comfortable, inviting, and confidential environment. Don't just think your relationship is doomed, or that it will get better on it's own. It probably won't do either! It can go on festering while you poison each other, or you can turn it around. If this idea resonates with you, I invite you to visit The Haven Healing Centre in Cheddar for a course of 'interventions'. Appointments and a treatment price list are available by clicking here. I look forward to welcoming you soon. Phil.

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