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Anger Management - Effective Anger Control
Lasting Success From Anger Issues - Confidentiality Guaranteed!Anger Management Training and Counselling for Bristol, Bath, Somerset, and the South West
There is no doubt that uncontrolled anger ruins lives!
It destroys families, it ruins relationships, it alienates your friends and family who think you're just a big kid trying to get their own way, or worse, a damned bully who they'd rather not know. You start by wondering what all the fuss is about, but eventually you get the message that people you care about don't like you! Every time you 'blow your top', somebody else, who probably loves you very much, is dying inside.
People who cannot control their anger find they have nowhere to turn for help, because sufficient intervention therapy and education don't exist, and family breakdown, sickness and mental health problems, unless they can be pigeon-holed into depression or anxiety, panic, phobia, eating disorder or a range of other psychological and emotional problems, then nothing specific exists to help them.
The Mental Health Foundation says anger is often dealt with only after someone has committed an aggressive crime. But of course, by then it's too late, because they are in trouble with the police. In addition, chronic and intense anger has been linked to heart disease, cancer, stroke, persistent colds and flu as well as depression, self-harm and substance abuse.
Has anger become a large part of your life? Are you ruining relationship after relationship because of anger? Need help and don't know where to turn? Find out below how to get the help you need to successfully manage your anger.
Anger is more likely to have a negative effect on relationships than any other emotion. You can choose to stay angry at everyone, but in the end it will destroy you. Or, you can choose to let go of that anger, to start the healing process and live life again.
What will counselling at The Haven Healing Centre do for me?
You will learn what anger is, how to control your own anger, and how to rebuild your relationships, both at home and at work. I will help you look at how your anger affects you personally, discuss details of how you display your anger and the timings of your anger, what triggers your anger and perhaps who is mainly on the receiving end of your anger. Sometimes this will be the person who has asked you to go for counselling, or sometimes a person, (male or female) becomes introspective and really wants to take stock of their lives, to take a long hard look, in a critical way, at their lives and where it is going.
This is when you perhaps first realize that most other people have more friends than you do. Perhaps they are invited out more and have more fun than you do. Perhaps you see other people as more contented than you, and things don't bother them so much as they do you. It is at times like these that you may decide to refer yourself for counselling.
Why is anger so wrong? It makes me feel powerful!
Anger is not wrong. Whatever gave you that idea? No, it's not anger that is wrong, it's what you do with it that is causing you grief. Look, if someone throws a brick through your window, you have every right to be angry at them. If you get ripped off at a market stall, or your ID is stolen and your credit card used fraudulently, anger is a natural reaction. If you get cut up at a roundabout and the other driver just drives off not even realizing, you may swear at them, show a finger, or you can become tense and upset. You know that anger is a problem for you when you go tearing after them to 'hug' their bumper, overtake them or cut them up in return. On the other hand, anger can, at times, keep you safe, provide you with inspiration, give you endurance and make your point very effectively.
Anger makes you feel powerful because its basis is energy. Anger is energy. Have you noticed how, when you get angry you feel energized? Your body gets a tremendous hit of adrenaline. it's the use to which you put that anger and energy that determines whether it is good or bad. So don't look at your anger as good or bad, right or wrong, just look at it as there, as something you have to deal with, before it deals with you.
One thing is certain when it comes to anger, and in particular, uncontrolled anger. Either you gain control over it, or it will take over where you don't want it too, and it may even destroy your life altogether. This will be the case already for hundreds, or thousands of people, who will eventually read this article.
Where did my temper come from? I don't even remember when it first started.
There can be 10,000 answers to this question. Because it is different for everyone. This is part of the art of counselling, figuring out the triggers. One of the best ways of finding out is to ask yourself, or someone close to you, 'How long have I had these anger tantrums?', or 'when did you first notice that I was developing a problem controlling my anger?'. In a marital relationship, this may receive a response like, 'When your mother/father died' or 'when you were made redundant from your job at .....'. Sometimes a partner will say, 'You've always been a hot head, at least, ever since I've known you'. It's worth noting here that for many people coping with anger is a lifelong struggle.
You don't have to spend the rest of your life struggling with your anger, hurting yourself and everyone around you. Learn to deal with your anger in different and more effective ways. Break the habitual way you react to certain situations. Stop arguing over trivia. Learn better ways to handle frustration and disappointment. Learn to relax, chill out and listen to others opinions. Become more flexible and become a happier, healthy person to your whole family.
Some anger treatment options you may have already tried
This to me is not very helpful, and in some ways shows fairly primitive thinking in terms of therapy. Also, it doesn't address the problem of what your anger is doing to you mentally and physically. Most research shows that getting people to express their anger actually makes the problem worse. And so, for that reason, I do not use these types of treatment.
The effects of anger
Anger affects the body negatively in many ways. It causes stress, it ties your stomach in knots, you can shake, sweat, have palpitations and panic. Your friends eventually leave you, you become lonely and very negative. Your health begins to suffer and may even be destroyed through early heart conditions, stress related illness, digestive illness and pain. You begin to lose respect for yourself and you face rejection from all sides. Man was not meant to live this way.
Most angry people don't even realize they are angry. They have lived with it for so long that they don't know when they are angry and when they are calm. They don't regard their feelings as unusual. All an angry person cares about is winning, at any cost, and will go out of their way to put another person down just to win. What they don't realize is that uncontrolled anger hurts you as well as everybody else around you.
Anger can make you or break you. When you deal with your anger effectively, it makes you honest to yourself and helps you to feel good inside. That's a worthy ambition as anything else leads to hate and trouble.
Beat anger before it beats you. The emotional and physical pain that comes from the continual physiological arousal can take many minutes to switch off. Continuing to engage in thought anger keeps reactivating the physiological responses and it never goes away. Learn to break this cycle effectively and efficiently, without embarrassment, shame, or guilt. Learn the techniques you can use to calm down the physiology in a caring environment. If you are worried that your marriage is on the rocks, or your partner has become so afraid to tell you for fear of sparking an anger episode, then the sooner you do something about it, the better. Success creates a very high likelihood of relationship resolution. Don't wait! The sooner we start, the sooner you will see improvement, and a return to a happy relationship. I hope you have found this information useful and feel encouraged to look for a solution. Please contact me if you want to find out about appointments and prices. I look forward to hearing from you. Phil.
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PS: I saw a brilliant tag line in a blog once; it said: I wouldn't need to manage my anger if other people could learn to manage their stupidity.
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